Some
of you will remember the house I moved into in Kabul with its
eclectic group of inhabitants. Five of us initially: Three men, two
women; a lawyer, a journalist, an accountant, one NGO head and our
baby development worker. A mini NATO: Two Germans, one American, a Canadian and me, a
Brit.
A
trio of Afghan guards: Nabi, Mohammed Toy and the very tall one
whose name I forget (or never knew). The maid, and then her cousin.
Two tortoises and then Oscar, our orphaned gutter kitten. We were by
no means perfect, but it worked – most of the time. But then came
the consultant, who we will call Greg, who initially was gong to live
in a yurt (nomadic tent) in the garden, before we all agreed that
perhaps he could stay in the basement.
Then the night before he was to arrive, an email preceded him: "I will be coming with someone else. My wife. She's pregnant." The result, so it seems, of an unplanned one night stand.
And so there we were: seven . Well, seven and a fraction at that time.
It
wasn't long before the fractures appeared. The newcomers did not like
Oscar. They complained about the risk of toxoplasmosis, even though
you're more likely to catch it from uncooked meat than cat feaces.
Still, they put up signs on their door “no toxoplasmosis” with a
picture of a cat with a cross through it. Oscar was on to them –
and would dash out of any room they were in, usually the rest of use
felt like doing the same.
Other
signs began to appear. We were entreated to close bathroom doors and
wash our hands. I was chastised in an email for leaving one bathroom
door open. Where the rest of us used what ever was in the fridge and
topped up next time we were in the shop, they wrote their names on
their vegetables.
Then
one day I made the big mistake of asking Greg to wash up at least one
of the two espresso makers he used each morning, and to please not
stack up all the glasses in the cupboard. Ok, so a bit anal, but I
did ask nicely.
Greg,
however, did not like being asked to do something. He never used the
espresso maker again, and started purposely stacking the glasses one
on top of each other. I would take them down, and he would stack them
back up …. When things finally came to a head and one of my other
flatmates, who they had referred to as the Nazi because she had asked
them to keep the kitchen clean on a Friday (no maid day), confronted
them about the atmosphere, they brushed her off saying every one was
petty and that someone had been eating their jam (I confess, that was
me!)
In
the end, I was asked to move out, and so Oscar, the Nazi and I left
and found a lovely place just round the corner. Greg later did a
runner, taking $10,000 from his NGO.
So
the point of this story (despite having a little dig at Greg) is that you would have though that after that
experience I would have been a little wary of living with a complete
stranger again. But no, there I was in Brighton taking a lease on a
two-bed place by the sea and advertising on websites for a flatmate.
And
along came the mad scientist. At first, it sounded like a pretty good
match. He's a physicist at Sussex University, who works on the Hadron
Collider, a vegan and loved the cats. But the woolly hat had me
worried, and when he showed up with three black bin liners worth of
belongings … he's 44 mind you … I was well on the way to saying
no, I've changed my mind. But I told myself not to judge – I could
be wrong.
It
became a three-month nightmare. First, he refused to talk to me most
of the time, addressing all his comments to the cats. He would come
into the house, completely ignore me in the living room and mumble to
Woody and Ray “Oh, hello, how are you, ok, let me put the shopping
down first, ….”. The only time he did talk to me was to tell me
the cats were hungry/thirsty/tired/upset/bored etc … or to point
out that my biscuits were not vegan.
He
seemed to have an aversion to any type of cleaning, and became quite
defensive and hostile when I asked him to throw away a basil plant,
dead for days. He stormed out and came back quite drunk.
Then
there was the shouting. Occasional bursts of expletives from inside
his room, and what sounded like door kicking.
In
the end, I asked him to move out. He responded “It's inconvenient”.
I said, “tough”. He then preceded to go to Switzerland to bash
atoms together and refused even to answer emails or texts about his
plans. Finally, he returned and I confronted him. What are your plans
on moving out?
“Well, I've been away so I haven't found anywhere to
live yet.”
Me: “But you're rent has run out and you are now eating
into your deposit.”
"So, use my deposit." Door slams.
Eventually, he did move out, taking his black plastic bags with him, but slashing my bike tyre on the way out and leaving behind a
charming picture of skulls in the bedroom.
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